AIME 2020b Problem 7

Two congruent right circular cones each with base radius $3$ and height $8$ have the axes of symmetry that intersect at right angles at a point in the interior of the cones a distance $3$ from the base of each cone. A sphere with radius $r$ lies within both cones. The maximum possible value of $r^2$ is $\frac{m}{n}$, where $m$ and $n$ are relatively prime positive integers. Find $m+n$.